6 Steps to Help You Remember the Big Picture of Your Relationship

Remembering "The Big Picture" in your relationship helps you stay connected and aligned, especially during difficult times. Here are some ways to help you reflect on why you  got together in the first place:

1. Shared Vision and Values

• Reflect on the core values that brought you together—such as love, trust, family, or mutual support. Revisit those shared beliefs regularly, reminding each other of your long-term goals as a couple.
• Create or update a vision for your future together. This can be both short-term (traveling, building a home) and long-term (retirement plans, family growth).

2. Revisit Special Memories

• Look back on the moments that defined your relationship. It could be your first date, a meaningful conversation, or a milestone (engagement, moving in together).
• Try looking at old photos, letters, or places that hold sentimental value. It can spark warm feelings and help you reconnect with your original motivations.

3. Maintain Rituals and Traditions

• Keep traditions alive, whether it’s an anniversary celebration, a special date night, or an inside joke. Rituals help maintain the emotional bond and remind you of what makes your relationship special.
• Even simple rituals like cooking dinner together or sharing a morning coffee can be grounding.

4. Open Communication and Reflection

• Take time to have open, meaningful conversations about your relationship. Discuss how far you've come, what you appreciate about each other, and what you'd like to continue working on.
• Reflect together on why you chose each other and what makes your relationship worth investing in.

5. Nurture Gratitude and Appreciation

• Regularly express appreciation for one another. Gratitude helps reinforce positive feelings and reminds each partner of the strengths they saw in the other when they first got together.
• Practicing gratitude builds emotional resilience and fosters a positive outlook, making it easier to remember why the relationship began.

6. Adapt and Grow Together

• Relationships evolve, and so do the people in them. Acknowledge how both of you have grown and changed over time. Embrace the fact that your "why" might evolve but should still align with your core values.
• Keep growing together rather than apart by supporting each other’s dreams and personal development.

By actively engaging with these practices, you can keep your connection strong and remember the love, purpose, and vision that first drew you both together.